We know, it can feel ~weird~ to talk about periods with your mom — but it doesn’t have to! You can share the *news* in any way that feels right to you: tell her simply and directly, write a letter, send her a text, stage a one-act play about the moment you realized what happened (hey, like we said: whatever feels right to you!).

Moms can help!

Truth is, your mom had/has a period, and she can probably answer a lot of your questions about what’s going on and what to expect. Not only that, she can help you get the products you need to manage your period and feel prepared. She’ll probably have a good sense of how you’re feeling and what you might need help with, and, of course, a whole lot of advice to give. Don’t be afraid to ask any questions you might have—mom knows what’s up (or will know where to go for the answer). 

Start the conversation

If you’d rather tell your bff, older sister, or aunt first, that’s just fine. It can even be good practice for talking to your mom! You can ask them how they started the conversation with their parents about getting their periods: How did it go? What did they say?

How To Tell Someone You Got Your Period

But it’s still important to tell your mom (she knew this day would come!). Something as simple as, “Mom, I got my period and I need some supplies,” is all it takes to start the conversation. If you’d rather not talk about it beyond that right now, that’s okay, but it can be helpful to explain your feelings. Are you excited? That’s great! Are you scared? That’s a-okay, too! Are you sad? Totally fine. First periods can be all those things—exciting, scary, sad—all at the same time.

Do I have to tell? 

It’s your body and ultimately your choice, but we’d answer with an emphatic yes. It can be uncomfortable to talk to your parents about periods (and other puberty stuff), but it’s an important thing to share for a few reasons. First of all, periods are *nothing* to be ashamed of or hide. It’s can be really empowering to acknowledge what your body’s naturally doing. Secondly, your mom almost definitely has tips and tricks for taking care of yourself, what products to use, and what can help if you’re dealing with any PMS symptoms. It’s great to have an unofficial expert around! In addition, sharing that you’ve gotten your period can be a really cool moment of bonding for you and your mom, and our bet is that your mom will be excited and help you feel proud of your body—and probably share some great stories about her first period. Plus, from a purely practical perspective, it’s important for your parents to know what’s going on with you medically, so they can help you get the best possible care when you need it.

Need some more help starting the convo? Watch this video with our friend, Arielle, to learn how she blurted it out to her mom, and how it wasn’t awkward *at all*.